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Many couples meet on blind dates. A good friend or someone at work may want to set you up with someone. It’s understandable that you’ll be a little stressed about spending time with a stranger. You may even feel pressure to agree. But you don’t have to worry.
Blind dates can be great if you go with the right attitude and know what to expect. But they can also be pretty awkward and embarrassing if you’re not careful. So be sure to read this post before agreeing to go on a blind date.
What is a blind date?
A blind date is when two people meet for the first time in a public place, usually at a predetermined time and place, with no one else to introduce them. The point is that; Once they’ve met, they’ll decide if they want to go on another date. If successful, they usually go on another date in the future.
Why is it called a “blind date”?
Blind dating is called “blind” because no one knows who the other is until they meet at the appointed place and time. Each has only what they’ve learned for the other person beforehand, usually from a mutual friend or matchmaker. Usually, each person is told about the other person’s age, gender, race, weight, height, and sometimes personality traits.
12 tips to have a good time on a blind date
If you approach dating in a positive and healthy way, it doesn’t matter what the outcome will be. Remember, the most important thing is to have a good time. Whether everything goes well or not, it’s up to you to make the experience enjoyable. Here are some tips that can increase your odds of having a successful blind date.
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be yourself. Wear something you feel good and comfortable in.
If you wear the outfit you feel best in, you will reflect your self-confidence the moment you enter the room.
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Start with a smile and a positive attitude.
To create good energy, approach the other person with a sincere smile.
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Do not confuse real feelings with sexual attraction.
The feeling of sexual attraction does not always reflect a deep connection. Many relationships begin with a sense of comfort and attraction and grow over time.
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Focus on neutral expectations and keep your expectations low.
The idea is to let yourself go and see if you want to be with this person. To avoid negative surprises, go with an open mind and let things flow.
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Be positive.
Instead of focusing on the negative things, what could go wrong, try to look for the good things about the evening. Laugh and don’t forget to have fun. Make jokes, smile and enjoy the moment.
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Consciously focus on the date.
Don’t complain, worry about rejection, or dream of a big beach wedding already. Live that moment.
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Check your date’s body language and facial expressions.
Remind yourself not to cross your arms in the defensive position. Make eye contact with your date and smile. This will help you and your date become more comfortable with each other.
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Don’t get too involved in personal matters.
This is not the time to talk about your ex or other previous dates. If things go well, you’ll have ample time to dive into personal matters.
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Use active listening skills.
Be relevant. Show genuine interest in the other party, ask questions and use your active listening skills. This means not spending all your time texting, asking open-ended questions, and talking about what your date has said.
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Communicate openly.
Express your feelings, expectations, and limitations clearly.
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Watch out for the drinks.
To keep it under control, watch your alcohol consumption and be careful not to exceed your limits.
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Focus on communication, not questioning.
Instead of questioning about someone’s career and family, ask questions that your date will happily talk about. This will put him in a better mood. Sample questions might include: “What do you like to do on the weekends? What is the best part of your job? Is there a good movie or book you recommend? Where do you want to travel next? What’s on your to-do list?”.
How to deal with tension and discomfort before a blind date?
If you’re feeling anxious, there are ways to calm yourself down. Breathing exercises are very effective and you can choose from a variety of breathing techniques. You can choose to meditate or enjoy some funny videos. You can listen to your favorite song or go for a walk in the park. Physical exercise has a number of benefits for your mental health.
Remember who set you up this appointment
Remind yourself that you trust your friend’s judgment. It’s great that someone you know thinks about you so much and wants to introduce you to someone else. This friend obviously can’t predict with certainty whether you’ll be successful, but the date will be less awkward. Because unlike dating through a dating app, at least you both know the person who makes it easy for you to date. This friend is your common ground.
Dating rules to follow
Even if someone introduced you to someone else, it’s wise to follow general and rational rules for safe dating. That means always choosing to meet in a public place. Some like to get together for a quick coffee or a drink so as not to waste too much time. Others prefer activities like taking a walk in the park or having fun at a karaoke bar. Whatever you do, be aware of your surroundings and think about how you will get home at dusk.
What to do if your blind date doesn’t go well?
If the date didn’t go well, take care of yourself first. Maybe you need to improve your self-esteem and love yourself. Maybe it will take some time and you are not ready to meet someone yet. Or maybe you and the other party just aren’t compatible. Often, two very good people get together and there is no attraction or spark.
At the end of the evening, remember to focus on the positive aspects. Maybe you learned something new, discovered a great place in town or made a new friend. Therefore, even if a romantic relationship did not arise, you managed to have a good experience and, in fact, the blind date was successful.
