Stating that sexual reluctance among couples is not given enough importance and talking about sexuality between couples is perceived as a taboo subject, Istinye University Hospital Medical Park Gaziosmanpaşa Psychiatry Specialist Dr. Murat Altın, “The hustle and bustle of daily life, work stress, tensions in family relationships, financial problems, sudden crises with children, fights with daily problems, couples are starting to move away from sexuality gradually. Talking about this issue, social taboos on it, too. “When it comes into play, an important issue such as sexuality and the problems experienced in this regard are started to be hidden and ignored. Just as a small crack in a glass gradually grows larger and eventually cracks the glass, the problems accumulated in sexual life turn into a growing crack in marriage.”
Psychiatrist Dr. Murat Altın gave information about sexual reluctance
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There may be mental or medical reasons
According to the World Health Organization, sexual health is defined as a person’s sexual life. is to be able to continue happily and unharmed without any coercion. A healthy communication, personality development and positive enrichment of the sharing of love between couples, as well as contribute to ensuring emotional, intellectual and social integrity. In humans, sexuality consists of the phases of desire, arousal, orgasm and resolution. These phases It includes different anatomical and physiological processes.The ‘desire phase’ is the most important phase that is independent of other phases and initiates and shapes sexuality. For this reason, it is the most frequently encountered phase. One of the sexual problems is lack of sexual desire.
Unlike men, at the source of sexual problems experienced in women; There may be mental or medical disorders, as well as sexual or interpersonal problems that the person encounters in his life. In many cases, we see that these problems often coexist.
Bad behavior can turn a woman off
Dr. Altın pointed out that negative sexual experiences such as marriage with an undesirable person, sexual assaults, false and frightening information about sexuality during childhood or adolescence can lead to the formation of a negative attitude of women towards sexuality.
Especially in our country, women start to feel anger and even hatred towards their spouses due to the indifference of the spouses, cheating, or the spouse’s lack of support for the spouses’ parents (especially the mother-in-laws). While this situation causes the woman to have negative feelings towards her husband and decrease in her love, sexual desire is also negatively affected. Again, in cases where the spouse does not show the necessary personal hygiene and has bad body and mouth odors, it negatively affects the sexual arousal of women, especially more meticulous women. Sometimes he cannot talk about this situation with his wife or cannot get the necessary support from his wife. In the following periods, sexual reluctance may begin to develop in women.
Take energy loss seriously
Physical health is an indispensable requirement for both sexes for a healthy and happy sexual life. In recent years, as a result of sedentary lifestyle characteristics, inadequate and unbalanced nutrition, especially Fe (iron) deficiency anemia, other vitamin deficiencies, especially vitamin B12 and D, are frequently observed. For example, according to statistics, Fe deficiency anemia is seen in 35 percent of women all over the world. While this situation causes intense fatigue, reluctance and loss of energy, especially in women, sexual life will also be affected. Again, endocrinological disorders such as thyroid dysfunctions and diabetes can reduce sexual desire. Sexual reluctance can also occur as a side effect of blood pressure medications, some antidepressants or birth control medications.
Do not hesitate to go to the specialist
HCIB (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder) in women, persistent or recurrent in sexual fantasy/sexual desire It is defined as the scarcity or deficiency that arises and creates a problem between the person/s. Although there are different data on its frequency in studies, its incidence in the community is around 9-12%. Major depression, which is seen at a high rate of 20-40 percent in women, is one of the most common causes of sexual reluctance in daily clinics. One of the symptoms of major depression is sexual reluctance, as well as the side effects of some of the antidepressant drugs used in its treatment, which can make this situation more distressing.
If vaginismus, which is also seen in women, is not resolved with a good therapy and treatment process, it may cause sexual reluctance in the future. Since sexual reluctance seen in women can cause problems in both mental, familial and social functionality after a certain period of time, it is a condition that needs attention and attention. It is important that women experiencing these problems receive support from mental health professionals who have been trained in this regard as soon as possible.